If you were looking for a ’10 easy steps to…’ kind of a post, this ain’t it I’m afraid (I’ll get back to you after the wedding if/when I’ve managed to figure it out).
Right now, I’m staring down the barrel of a cross-cultural wedding in less than 6 months time, with no idea how to proceed.
(I just re-read that sentence and realised I’m starting to hate myself. Phrases like “less than 6 months”, as if 6 months was a short amount of time, are classic wedding industry panic-mongering that I used to despise. Just look at me now.)
The trouble is, I have little to no idea about weddings in general, let alone the lesser-spotted multi-cultural variety. I’ve been to only a handful in my life, and never in any kind of responsible capacity (even as a bridesmaid, I was only allowed to lace a corset and carry some flowers). Worse, as illegitimate spawn of hippy parents who only condescended to get married when pension arrangements necessitated it, I have no frame of reference and few resources to draw on (that’s not to say that my Mum isn’t super-excited, but it’s like the blind leading the blind at times). On E’s side, I fear there are some specific ideas about how things should be done that are so specific I’m afraid of even asking.
We’ve already managed to cross two big things off the list – find a venue and buy a dress – and we’ve got 6 months to go. The challenge now is to figure out all that devilish detail: how to combine the fun parts of both English and Turkish weddings, and still retain enough of ‘us’ that it won’t be like attending someone else’s party.
Would someone like to come and do it for me?!
After a quick google, here’s the best of the advice I’ve been able to find. If anyone else has any other tips PLEASE share them!
- How interracial couples can create fantastic fusion weddings (Huffingtonpost.com)
- The Big Mix: Secrets to throwing an inter-faith, cross-cultural wedding (glamour.com)