Scour the internet for wedding planning advice, and, as we all know, you are inundated with information. Spend five minutes surfing and you’ll be begging someone to make it stop. Granted, a lot of it is tripe dreamed up by over-paid magazine editors that has bearing on almost no-one’s reality. But advice there is a-plenty.
Google how to plan a marriage, however, and you come up with nothing. The results are actually quite dispiriting: type the word “marriage” into Google and one of the first suggestions that appears is “marriage counselling”. Type “marriage p” and the top suggestion is “marriage problems”. When you actually hit search, all you get is reams and reams of the same old wedding planning advice, as if planning a wedding and preparing for a marriage are one and the same thing.
Dig a little deeper and you WILL uncover reams and reams of marriage advice. However, this brand of advice is largely geared towards those who want to be Good Christian Wives. No doubt this is useful advice for anyone, if you can endure the gospel references. But where is the secular person’s guide to marriage?
The almost total lack of non-religious pre-wedding marriage advice makes me wonder whether it’s a bit weird to look for advice on how to be married. Maybe this kind of stuff just cannot be taught? But this is one of the biggest endeavours I’m ever going to embark on, and heck, I don’t even like to go to the supermarket without a bit of planning first. When I think about being a married person – a WIFE – I find myself quite clueless.
So I’m starting a search for advice, which I’m going to collect here in a new section called How to be Married. All of you married people out there: any and all tips will be gratefully received! And who knows, maybe this will be useful for other soon-to-be or newly-weds out there…